My aha moment from Tony Robbin’s TED talk is the 6 needs that all of us seek to fulfill. Tony classifies the first four as physical needs and the last two as needs of the spirit. They are –
i) Certainty – We seek control over our surroundings to maintain sanity
ii) Uncertainty – Certainty is boring and we crave variety. Uncertainty is necessary evil
iii) Significance – We seek to be unique. Every snow flake is different. Violent behavior is often an expression of this need.
iv) Connection & Love – No man is an island. We have to share ourselves with each other to feel loved and wanted.
v) Growth – We are learning machines. Stagnation dulls us.
vi) Giving back – Contributing to society fulfills the void inside us. Giving back is more enriching than hoarding.
Only when all of these are met do we feel whole and balanced.
I don’t know how far this theory is True. But watching Tony is very inspiring.